To Get the Best for the Rest of Your Life

The variety in India is largely reflected through different kind of food, clothing and traditions observed by different communities. The same feature is reflected in Indian marriages. Marriage is a very esteem tradition of India. It is a socially and ritually recognized bond of two individuals. Marriage is considered to be the most memorable event in one’s life and is celebrated with great pomp and grandeur. In India, a legally valid marriage between two individuals is one, which is recognized by a state under the prospective laws depending upon their religion whether they are Hindu, Muslims or Christians. Indians choose their life partners mainly for religious, spiritual and economical benefits.

Decision of Matchmaking:

When it comes to taking the decision about choosing a life partner, no one wants to take a wrong decision. Yet, with a divorce rate of more than 50 percent, it appears that many are making consequential mistakes in their approach to finding Ms / Mr. Perfect. If you ask to the engaged couples why they are getting married, they will say: “we are in love” perhaps this is the first mistake people make when they date. Selection of a life partner should never be based on love. Though this may not sound politically correct, there is a profound truth here. Love is not the basis for getting married. Rather, love should be the result of good marriage. When the other ingredients are right then love will automatically come. Let me say it again: You cannot build a lifetime relationship on love alone. You need a lot more. 

Definition of Marriage:

Marriage is the un pragmatic identification of merger of a man and a woman. Marriage can be acknowledged by a state, an institution, a religious authority, a tribal group, a local organized unit. It is often viewed as civil marriage which does not exist in some countries, is marriage without holy content carried out by a government foundation in accordance with the marriage laws of the jurisdiction and through a marriage ceremony.

Aspects to Make a Marriage Success:

If you love your mate and want the relationship to grow and evolve, you have got to learn how to close one eye and not let every little thing bother you. You and your mate have many different expectations, emotional needs, values, dreams, weakness and strengths. You are two unique individual children of god and you decided to live a life together. Neither one of you is perfect, but are you perfect for each other? Do you bring out the best in each other? Do you compromise and compliment with each other or do you compare, compete and control each other? You cannot make somebody to love you or make somebody to stay with you If you develop self esteem, spiritual discernment, and “a life” you won’t find yourself making someone else responsible for your happiness or responsible for your pain. Manipulation, control, jealousy, neediness and selfishness are not the ingredients of thriving, healthy, loving and long lasting relationship. Seeking status, sex and security are the wrong reasons to be in a relationship.

What Keeps a Relationship Strong is:

· Trust

· Communication

· A Sense of humor

· Sharing common goals and interests.

· Daily exchanges ( a meal, shared activity, a hug, a kiss, a touch, a note)

· Intimacy

· Sharing tasks

· Some Getaway time without work

· Giving each other space to grow without feeling insecure

· Give each other a sense of belongings and assurance of commitment

Commitment during Marriage:

Commitment is a determination to have the generous marriage god desires, regardless of situations or whether you think your partner is doing his or her part. This includes

· Perceiving that marriage is a long lasting protocol in the sight of God.

· Focusing on the good in our spouse and the sin in ourselves – Instead of the other way around.

· Depending on god to help you act selflessly toward your partner.

Reference By:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Marriage

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Couple

http://www.crosswalk.com/family/marriage/

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